I know a lot of people that go running on a daily basis, whether that is with their running clubs or by simply using the treadmill at the gym or at home. I myself don’t like running because it irritates my joints on hard ground. I have tried using treadmills for running as well for the softer ground effect but that didn’t really suit my needs either. I ended up using a cross trainer for a while and that worked nicely but it didn’t really give me the cardiovascular workout I was looking for. A friend of mine told me she was going to a yoga class a couple of times a week at her local sports hall so I went with her once, and now I go multiple times a week as I think I have finally found what I love doing when it comes to fitness.
Understandably, a lot of people don’t like the thought of yoga for multiple reasons but it suits my needs down to the ground. I don’t really have a lot of time to go to the gym or do anything at home as I have children so going to yoga twice a week is not only the only chance I get to have some time to myself but it’s also the only chance I get to exercise. If you are much like me and you haven’t really found the ideal fitness activity yet, I strongly advise you at least give yoga a try. Ok, yoga isn’t for everyone; I personally didn’t think it was for me but I couldn’t have been more wrong and it has changed my life for the better. All you need is a comfortable yoga mat and your set to go, no other things required. Friends even tell me all the time that I am not only looking in much better physically condition, but I also seem a lot happier and confident in myself.
Yoga has so many benefits in the sense you not only get a good physical workout but it also has a positive mental effect on everything else I do in life. I’m much more confident for a start, I haven’t even been on a date for a few years before I started yoga and now I’ve even found someone thanks to the yoga classes I undertake. Along with all of that above, I actually look at life differently, I’m hardly ever stressed anymore because yoga helps me think about things much more clearly, and that in turn provides a much happier environment for my children. I don’t think there are actually any negatives to doing yoga, I’ve had nothing but a much more positive life since I started doing it and it seems everybody else that goes is a lot happier as well. Yoga might not work for everyone, but it certainly works for me and I can’t believe how much it has changed my life for the better.
Running is of course a great way to exercise and it provides people with plenty of other benefits, but for me, yoga is what I choose because it fits around my life nicely and provides me with plenty of other benefits. Running is great for those that have time to do it multiple times a week and those who have stronger joints. The fact is, my joints are terrible and I can’t handle the hard ground otherwise I think I would have chosen running instead of yoga – but I’m actually glad now that my joints aren’t that good otherwise I would never have started yoga on a regular basis.
In conclusion, I absolutely adore yoga and it has not only helped me personally but it has helped everybody around me as well because I am just happy all the time, and that makes them happy. If you are looking to try something different, I would recommend yoga to anyone looking to change their lives around not just physically, but mentally. There isn’t a lot yoga hasn’t done for me and even though I’ve only been doing it for a short while when compared to a lot of others, it has already helped me and my life tremendously. Take one class and I promise you will not look back.
When your child invites their friends around for tea and you hear about some of the fun things their mothers do with them it’s very easy to get into competition to prove you are the better mother. It might not just be the fun things they do with their children either, it might be simply turning up to the school and chatting with other parents and seeing that their parents seem to be much more popular among other moms than you are. It’s not a nice feeling to have, but it certainly doesn’t mean getting into competition with other mothers is going to make things better.
There are plenty of other things that make you a better mother, and there are things that make them better mothers, so in theory, most mothers are equal whichever way you look at things. Many problems can arise if you compete with other mothers and we will look at a few of those problems below.
- You might make enemies – When competing with other mothers it would sometimes be very obvious to the mothers involved – this will quickly create certain atmospheres that nobody wants to be a part of and will in turn make you public enemy number one. There isn’t much point in competing when you know it’s going to have an adverse effect on not only your relationship with other parents but also your children’s relationship with theirs.
- Your child will understand what’s happening – Depending on the age of your children, they will more than likely know what is going on. The fact is, children aren’t stupid no matter what people say about them and they will always have an idea about what’s going on in their parents’ lives. When you are competing with other mothers, they will often hear snide remarks from you and will put two and two together – you will make it pretty obvious what you are doing without even realising it. It’s better just to keep your head down and get on with your own job as a parent and just be yourself.
- You won’t be yourself – When you are competing with other moms, you will find you are doing things that you wouldn’t usually do just to try and make yourself better. This is a problem because that would then mean you are not being yourself, or the mother that your children already love dearly. Always stick to the rules you implement into the household, just because some mothers out there let their children stay up late doesn’t mean you should just so you feel better than them.
- It could have an impact on your partner – Just remember that not being yourself has an impact on others around you, and in particular your partner. They will think there is something going on and will wonder why you are wanting to change things around all of a sudden. This will then impact the rest of the family and can end up causing you lose special relationships with the ones you love.
In conclusion, there really are no benefits in trying to compete with other mothers that you feel are much better at the job than you are, when in reality you are all equal and do things differently with your children. The best thing that any mother can do in this situation is to just be yourself, your children already love you as much as they possibly can so why stress over some of the things other parents are doing with their own children? Even if there are any benefits in trying to compete with other mothers, there are certainly many more benefits in just being yourself which outweighs trying to compete, so the direction in which you take to bring up your children should be your own decisions and nobody elses. There may come a time when other parents don’t agree with your methods, but that isn’t to say you are doing anything wrong, that might just be a case of jealousy from their own part.
The best thing you can do is concentrate on yourself and your family around you and never go down to the level of other parents that might envy you.
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If you are a parent you will find it is very hard to get some alone time to bring yourself back down to reality. The fact is, having children is the best thing that can happen to you but no matter how much you love them, it’s always nice to get some time to yourself without any bickering going on in the background. Getting some alone time isn’t easy as no matter what time or day it is, your children will be relying on you for something, whether that is to take them to school or cook them dinner.
Finding a quiet place when you have a busy family is always important, not just to you, but also your family. Spending time to yourself even if it’s just for a few short minutes can help you relieve stress and have a quick think about your life in general, and where it’s going. Here are a few ways in which you can have some alone time without having kids nag you for something:
- Read a book – A simple way of getting out of all the noise is to go and find a room in the house where it’s quiet and no one else is there but yourself. Get out one of your favourite books and read until your heart’s content whilst your partner takes care of the kids for a while.
- Have a bath – Run yourself a hot bath with plenty of bubbles and you will find yourself in one of the most relaxing places on earth. Even having a bath for half hour is all it takes is to relieve some of that built up stress.
- Treat yourself to a shopping spree – Sometimes it doesn’t take a quiet place to make you feel comfortable, simply going to a busy mall where it’s filled with other parents having a bit of alone time is all it takes to give yourself a bit of relief.
- Go to a spa – This one is more for the moms out there – going to a spa with the friends is just what the doctor has ordered. You can leave the kids at home with your other half whilst you go and get a massage and a nice glass of deserved wine.
- Have a game of golf – Whether you are a male or female parent, will depend on what you would do in your alone time. Some men might like to go and have a game of golf in the quiet, whereas women might like to get their hair done.
These are just some of the things you can do to get a bit of alone time and it doesn’t necessarily have to be a quiet place to do it. Some parents opt to read their favourite books whereas some parents like to go and have a few alcoholic beverages on the evening to let their hair down. The options are endless and it is up to you to create some alone time as it is important for the whole family.